“When we define ourselves from a place of reactionary codependency and victimhood, we put resistance in the center of our identity, and it becomes easy to block the good that wants to come our way.”—“We Got Issues” by Rha Goddess
“Many of this generation’s daughters are in over their heads and living way over the edge because we are driven by the overburdening need to have it all, be it all, and do it all - in half the time.”—“We Got Issues” by Rha Goddess
“Because it is not up to America whether I live or die, nor is it up to the so-called leadership of this nation whether I survive or prosper. And the moment I decide that my fate is governed by what America thinks of me, I give up my power, and my life becomes about the struggle for validation, recognition, and entitlement - on America’s terms.”—"We Got Issues" by Rha Goddess
“It appears that when we women respond to stressful situations, we do not just fight or flee, we also lower our own stress by tending and nurturing…”—"Standing in Relationship to Myself and Nature" by Gloria Flora
“During discussions leading up to the vote, which began at noon, Del. Ariana Kelly (D-Montgomery) said the bill is about ending discrimination and that transgender people are “normal.” “There are not now, and never have been two simple boxes, male and female, that people fit into,” Kelly said, “and that’s okay.”—
The first is that true gender equality is actually perceived as inequality. A group that is made up of 50% women is perceived as being mostly women. A situation that is perfectly equal between men and women is perceived as being biased in favor of women.
And if you don’t believe me, you’ve never been a married woman who kept her family name. I have had students hold that up as proof of my “sexism.” My own brother told me that he could never marry a woman who kept her name because “everyone would know who ruled that relationship.” Perfect equality - my husband keeps his name and I keep mine – is held as a statement of superiority on my part.
This reminds me: I got my first snide comment about not changing my names from the otherwise really nice guy in customs. To be fair he was probably just joking, based on tone, but he still saw our rings and the different names on our passports and goes “Ah, one of those ‘independent’ women then?”
I hate it when people post stuff about thin people being “anorexic” or “trying so hard to be thin” or “think they’re better than everyone.” I’m thin. I work out because it makes me feel alive in the mornings and gives me necessary time alone to think about my day. I eat when I’m hungry and stop when I’m not. I assure you, I am not anorexic. I am not trying hard to be thin. And I absolutely don’t think I’m better than anyone else.
It has taken me a long time to accept my body. I don’t have voluptuous curves like so many others. I wore a training bra till I was a junior in high school. I don’t have legs that stretch for miles. Boys didn’t even look twice in my direction. I’m a high school teacher, and after five years I’m STILL asked for my hall pass by hallway security even though I’m a good ten years older than most of the students I teach.
If we’re going to be all about accepting all body types, we really should accept ALL body types. Please check yourself before you make a judgement about someone based on their size, no matter what that size might be.
“Attacking femaleness, deriding ‘girly stuff’ and rolling your eyes at ‘women’s issues,’ declaring yourself a ‘tomboy’ who gets along better with men because women are silly or pretty or whatever - these are expressions of internalised sexism. If that’s the way you feel about your own sex you’ll be doomed to feel inferior no matter what you achieve in life.”—Emily Maguire, Introduction to “Female Chauvinist Pigs: Women and the Rise of Raunch Culture 2010 Edition.” (via tulletulle)